Part 3 – Little Steps at the Beginning of the Journey
Part 3 of 7-Part Series
CHOOSE BETTER WORDS – Eliminate Feeble Words
Discover the Past
Recover the Present
Revise the Future
In my previous article, Little Steps #2, I spoke of my personal challenge to STOP speaking words of criticism, complaint, and gossip. It is an ongoing challenge – much more difficult to do this than I could have imagined.
In today’s article, I introduce you to Little Steps #3 when I move on to discuss HOW we can develop our words more carefully and change them from negative or weak words, into powerful, life altering words. If you are a writer this Little Step might be what you need to think about in developing your work. This Little Step is a good one for anyone, in any profession.
I created 2 lists and tacked them on the wall beside my computer. I need to look at these 2 lists often to remind myself to use more powerful and direct words. I use my 2 lists to edit my writing. Create your own lists and check them often until you get in the habit of looking for the words that are weak and feeble in your writing.
List #1: Passive Words – they give a feeling of uncertainty to your writing. You want to be direct and certain, not wishy-washy. Go through your writing draft and change the passive voice into strong active voice.
Eliminate: was; were; are; is; have been
List #2: Feeble phrases and words to eliminate from your writing:
Eliminate: amazing; awesome; actually; really; very; things; it; quite; got;
perhaps; maybe; literally; stuff; in my opinion; incidentally
Review your writing, then get out your blue pencil or hit the delete button on every word from this list. Replace those “busy work” and “filler” words with powerful clear words that make your piece strong.
This link will take you to a good page to read on Active and Passive Voice in your writing:
When you CHANGE YOUR VOCABULARY, a better choice of words enables you to speak and write better. You will feel like a WINNER!
The next time you feel the words, “I can’t because…” coming up in your mouth, switch it to “I will figure out how to do…!”
When you say “I can’t” you’re telling yourself, or others, “I won’t.” In Little Step #2, we decided “NO MORE EXCUSES for YOU – Change your words – change your mind. Recognize feeble words and self-defeating excuses. Just don’t say those words anymore! You can do it. Be a GOLDEN APPLE in a SETTING of SILVER.
I love this verse from Proverbs 25:11 (ESV)
“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in a setting of silver.”
Written and published by Lynda McKinney Lambert. Copyright, 2015. Al Rights Reserved.
~ Our spirit whispers to us – listen for the message! ~
Little Step # 2 – No More Excuses!
Part 2 of 7-part series
DISCOVER – RECOVER – REVISE
~ When June whispers, “Take responsibility for your life!” ~
OK, so you have been making a ton of excuses about why your life is not what you want it to be!
Yes, I can just hear you now – complaining about all the things you don’t like, even the weather! And, along with that, we get caught up in passing along a tidbit of gossip, and we criticize others as well as our self. Isn’t it time to take control of all this, turn it around, and make the CHANGE in our life that will be meaningful not only to ourselves, our families, and the world we live in?
Gandhi said, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
Are you ready to stop the complaining? Gossiping? Criticizing? Ready to begin taking the next step in the direction to change all that?
An easy thing to do? Oh, gosh, it sure is not easy. Right now, I have completed the book “A Complaint Free World,” and you can find out more about this movement by going to the website: www.AComplaintFreeWorld.org
I joined the challenge – and I am wearing the PURPLE BRACELET every day. Every time I find myself uttering words that are complaints, gossip or criticism, I have to move the bracelet to the other arm. The goal is to have 21 complaint free days in a row – the bracelet must stay in place on one arm for 21 days! That is the number of days it takes to begin a new habit. I will tell you the average person takes 4 to 8 months to achieve this goal. After a month, I have had only TWO complaint free days in a row. But I am determined to live a complaint free life and I will keep on going with this challenge no matter how long it takes. I purchased 10 of the bracelets because I knew it would take me quite awhile to change my speech patterns! You will be surprised at how many times you utter words or comments that are not complimentary, critical, or even gossip once you begin this challenge for chang.
It takes 21 days to form a NEW HABIT –
It’s a kind of unease, deep down inside of you. You will feel some disappointments in yourself and even a longing for change. You begin to realize it’s in your hands to make this change. Only you can learn to get your tongue under control.
June is the perfect month to consider the elimination of your excuses – Ask yourself, What has kept me from experiencing a satisfying life. Let’s make June as a time of NEW BEGINNINGS!
Think about what you personally CAN do and take action. Write DOWN what you WILL do. Put little reminders all around your house – write your INTENTIONS on sticky notes, and put them where you will see them all the time. Keep them in the forefront of your mind. If you are visually impaired, as I am, a reminder like my purple bracelet keeps me on target. I reach over and touch it, move it around, and remember my goal to stay positive today. Learning to keep silent is difficult. Learning to use wisdom and grace instead of quickly stating your own opinion on a matter is something we all can learn to do. But we have to stay focused on our intention to be complaint free all the time.
Ask yourself what you WILL do, and then listen for the response. Learn to be quiet and listen to your spirit.
Don’t worry; it won’t be something beyond your capabilities!
The CHANGES you MAKE will be little steps that come when you learn to remain quiet and have a sense of waiting on God for your leading throughout each day.
See where YOUR LITTLE STEPS take you.
I can promise you, your journey to be complaint-free will be just perfect FOR YOU
and YOUR personal talents and passions in life.
You may like to read: A Complaint Free World by Will Bowen.
This challenge is an eye-opener when you actually begin to make the changes. – well, lets just say, it is quite revealing. Will you join ME in making life changes in your world? If you do, let me know how it’s going for you. We can keep each other encouraged as we CHANGE our WORLD. No More Excuses for Us !
Proverbs 13:3 English Standard Version (ESV)
3 Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life;
he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.”
It is because the words we speak are creative – the words create our future and the conditions of our present. We become what we say and we receive what we created by our speech. Guard your mouth because it is a matter of living an abundant life or a life of constant drama, struggles, and disappointments. For me, the purple bracelet challenge is a little step in the BEST direction for my life. How about you?
You can visit Little Steps #1 by clicking on: https://llambert363.wordpress.com/2015/04/15/you-can-move-on-and-april-is-the-perfect-time-to-do-it-join-me-on-this-first-little-step-of-our-lifes-purpose-and-journey-to-wholeness/